I’ve been working with a lot of coaching clients recently, and there’s a common theme for a few of them: “I know what I need to do, but I’m not doing it.”
No one is going to give you permission to make the change. It can be scary, trying something new, but if you keep doing what you’re doing, and you’re going to keep getting what you’ve always gotten.
When I first started learning social skills, I had a sticking point. I could banter, story-tell, all the verbals were good to go, but I wasn’t using any kinesthetic communication. I knew I needed to, but I figured I could still work without it. Finally, I got a product about how to kino escalate, and I finally grabbed my cajones and practiced. It took about 2 weeks of me practicing and incorporating kinesthetic communication into my interactions that I didn’t have to think about it anymore.
Trying something new reminds me of a saying, “It’s only kinky the first time.”
Whether it’s kinesthetic communication escalation, or moving from a podunk town to a place with an ample supply of people, taking the plunge can be scary, but no one’s going to push you to make the change you need to make. It all has to come from you. YOU are responsible for pushing the edge of your comfort zone and try new things.
My friends in the seduction community never stop trying new things. They’re always learning, always pushing the limit of what’s possible, and because of that, they’re more successful than the people who have to rely on other people’s advice without trying to blaze their own trail. This isn’t just in the community, this is for anyone who is considered great: the greats of anything are the people at the avant garde of their craft. Leonardo never stopped trying to invent new things, Buckethead is constantly mixing genres using 6 strings and some wood in ways that don’t even seem possible, Apple gaining market-share by taking a novel “less is more” approach in the electronics field. I’m sure when these people started, they were called crazy, or were at least met with a great deal of skepticism, but they pushed through the fear and the critics to become what they wanted to be.
So I implore you, read, learn from whatever guru or great that has blazed a trail and learn the rules, understand what you need to do, even if it’s terrifying, and give yourself permission to make the change! When you’ve learned the rules, learn when you can bend and break them.
