I’ve been trying a lot of new things lately, and the results have been interesting.
The community talks about a “secret society,” like a sexual “Fight Club.” The members recognize each other, but outsiders are never shown the way in. To join, it simply takes confidence, a love of the opposite sex, and comfort with one’s own sexuality. Sounds easy, but to truly embody the requirements can take work.
Look up my coaching page if you’re interested in joining the society. 
There’s an interesting article here about a woman’s experience with a guy in the secret society.
The author writes:
He’ll grab my hair, yank it hard, pushing and pulling me like a puppet, and I love it. Actually, love is an understatement. The more dominant he is, the further I want him to go.
Male members in the society are absolutely masculine. They have purpose, they know what they want, and they have no qualms about taking what they want out of life. The men in the society also have to care about the women in their life, so the women feel safe to try new things with them, even if it’s something crazy.
The newness makes me feel, to invoke Madonna for a moment, in some small way, like a virgin, like I am giving him some part of myself I’ve never given anyone before. Even if he doesn’t know that, I do, and it makes it feel special.
The members of the secret society are allowed special access to each other’s emotions as well as bodies. Again, it’s a trust issue. Putting one’s self into such a vulnerable position takes a huge amount of trust, and if you’re not a member, you might not love women, you might not understand women, so women can’t trust you enough to fully let go with you.
Even if the sex is good, sometimes your mind just goes somewhere else. Well, when someone is slapping your face or choking you, that doesn’t happen.
One reason I like really kinky sex. It’s nearly impossible to not be present when things get crazy in the bedroom. Start off small, light taps to her cheek, light spanks, etc. If she responds positively, try a little harder. Communication’s really important, but it’s fun to see how turned on girls get with a masculine man that she trusts.
It’s physical; the minute he starts to get rough with me, I get wet, excited, ready.
I have nothing to add.
This is something that we both get off on.
I’ve tried getting kinky because I thought it would please a certain woman, but I wasn’t feeling it. Because I was just doing it for show, it turned her off. I feel like all things sexual HAVE to be an expression of love, especially when it comes to the rough stuff. If that’s not the case, you need to not be doing this. Most of my advice is made up of guidelines; not in this case. Don’t do this with someone you don’t deeply care about. Ever.
Knowing that deep down he’s a good guy makes that transformation really hot for me. I don’t think I’d be into playing that way with a guy who thought he was God’s gift to women—or one who thought that all men are meant to dominate all women.
Again, she obviously trusts her partner very much. Only men who truly love women get to do this. Cocky players trying to stick their winkies into anything wet and warm aren’t going to get the trust necessary to be allowed into this society. Period.
Happy spanking!
