Dear Amanda,
While I can appreciate your concern after reading Michael Dance’s Article, the source material you used in your article to represent the “Seduction Community” is hardly an accurate representation. I’ve met 100s of aspiring ladies’ men in my work as a dating coach, all of whom love and adore women.
People in the community, in general, do not rely on “pick up lines” to get women, but instead focus on improving their social skills and themselves to become better men in an effort to attract higher quality women. Higher quality, not necessarily hotter, but women who fire up these men’s passion.
The people who truly understand what we do and teach have nothing but positive praise for it. We’ve spoken at very well respected colleges, with our families in attendance. Personally, my dad has helped me coach a workshop, and my sister always comes into workshops to offer a female opinion.
I’m the first to admit that some of the men teaching others are scam artists, looking for a quick buck. However, it’s not fair to assume that misogynistic, dishonest men are the entirety of the pick up community. The same sort of people exist in all markets and fields, people who take advantage of people with low self-esteem.
The Seduction Community is not the cause of misogyny, or men shooting up women, or even bad dating advice. All of these are symptoms of a greater issue, and it’s wrong of you to hold men who are on the path to meet the women of their dreams by becoming better men accountable for a few bad apples’ actions. It is these men who are scammed and aren’t learning how to be better men and having great relationships who are doing these heinous things. As someone who claims to be on the side of women, I would think that you’d see the value in teaching men how to be more suave and debonair so that violence against women can stop happening and a trend of amazing relationships can begin!
Sincerely,
Justin Carnahan
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Yes, I agree Justin. I feel sad when I see people criticizing the seduction community without really understanding its higher purpose. I know that the community may trigger fear and defensiveness in some people and touch deep, sore parts inside them, but it really is a spiritual path, and these men really are learning to become better human beings.
Seek to understand, and then to be understood.
I read the article you are responding to. This is an excellent response. I sincerely love women and do not want or need to trick them into anything. Simply put, I want to be more social, lovable, fun, happy person, and not achieve this by attracting high quality women, but instead, attract high quality women while becoming a better person.
Good article.
Peace.